Question: How are you?

Question: How are you?

What was your answer? Many of us will say ‘fine’, even when we’re not…

One in four of us will experience a mental health problem and 9 in 10 say they have faced negative treatment from others as a result. By choosing to be open about mental health, we are all part of a movement that’s changing the conversation and ensuring that no one is made to feel isolated or alone for having a mental health problem.


Today, Thursday 1st February 2018 marks Time To Talk day – the day to get the nation talking about mental health. It’s a chance for us all to be more open about mental health – to talk, to listen, to change lives. It’s easy to think there’s no right place to talk about it. But the more we talk about it, the better life is for all of us.

The Wellbeing Committee I am part of at work, have decided to hold a morning and an afternoon coffee session in a relaxed chill out room within our office. Our staff will be able to gather information on mental health issues, pick up tips and support, chat with each other and/or one of the trained Mental Health First Aiders within the office. We are planning on keeping it very informal to get away from the clinical-ness that it could potentially be!

Send a text, an email, a tweet or a Facebook message, or chat to someone right now and have your conversation about mental health, don’t know how?

  1. Start Small: Many people find talking in person intimidating, and that’s understandable. But it doesn’t need to stop you from starting a conversation altogether. You could make a quick phone call, send your best mate a text, or leave a note for a parent.
  2. Find A Good Time & Place: Sometimes it’s easier to talk side by side rather than face to face. So, if you do talk in person, you might want to chat while you are doing something else. You could start a conversation when you’re walking, cooking or stuck in traffic.
  3. Ask (Gentle) Questions: There are lots of misconceptions around mental illness. That means asking questions can be an important way of learning. Just remember not to get too personal, and be aware if the discussion is making someone feel uncomfortable.
  4. Be Open: Being open and honest with others can help to build trust. For example, you might choose to tell your friend something about you that they may not know. Just remember, don’t feel pressure to share anything that you are not comfortable with.
  5. Treat Them The Same: When someone is diagnosed with a mental illness, they’re still the same person as they were before. And that means when a friend or loved one opens up about mental health, they don’t want to be treated any differently. If you want to support them, keep it simple. Do the things you’d normally do.

For further info and resources, please see Time To Change.

Photo/Logo: Time To Change

Real Life

Real Life



Life is not a matter of holding good cards, but sometimes, playing a poor hand well.

Jack London

I heard this quote early on in my current workplace and it’s stuck with me. I work in Front Of House Service/Facilities/Health & Safety or an online gambling website that also run live poker events.

Sometimes you just can’t help the situation that you are in, but you can help the way you respond, react and deal with that situation. That’s real life…

Prompt: Sunday Scribblings #2 – Real Life

Photo: Clare S, 2015, Amsterdam (Light Festival)

New Years Resolutions 2018: What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?

New Years Resolutions 2018: What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?

Alert: Typical first post subject?

I decided to take a different approach to my News Years Resolutions this year, why? Because I nearly ALWAYS fail before the end of January, sometimes I never even started… (much like this blog I’ve been meaning to start). That left me making the same vague resolutions year and year again, not making any big changes at all. The ‘Big Bang’ for me was looking back at my 2017 resolutions as I had no inspiration for this year, I realised I only started half of them and finished last year doing none of them.

Now, this isn’t a ‘New Year, New Me‘ makeover type of post, I’m not trying to reinvent myself or make a strict set of rules to abide by for 2018, that I must follow or fail miserably like always before. This year I’m making small (dare I say easier?) changes but also for the first time, throwing myself in at the deep end. With this I mean, I’m actually starting these resolutions, if they don’t work, or I don’t like them, at least I can say I tried and move on.

So I’m here right now, typing away at a ‘What I would attempt if I knew I would not fail?’ prompt, attempting to blog, something that’s been on that re-occurring resolution list since FOREVER. This blog to be my accountability (and proof) that I’ve actually completed at least one of my goals this year, but hopefully it can account for more, which actually leads my nicely to some of my resolutions:

  1. Simple. Start a blog. Start writing posts. Aim for two to three posts a week. Keep it up for a year. Previously, I started a blog when my son was 12 weeks old and aimed for a post a day, I failed after 3 posts. I think two to three posts a week is a good aim for me for now. I want the opportunity to write a little freely, if I like it I continue, if I don’t like at, at least I tried!
  2. Meal Plan & Prep More, Take Away Less. We order food in a lot, way too much in fact, and I love cooking! Convenience of a food order normally wins because I fail at meal planning and no one wants to take spontaneous cooking responsibility. Our meals need to feed five (4 adults plus a toddler and a dog makes 5) and although we normally have a big selection of meat in the freezer, advance planning and preparation is needed to ensure meat is defrosted properly and it takes as little time as possible to get it on the table. So far I’ve meal planned for the rest of the week and will be delegating the cooking out on some days.
  3. Drink More Water. I was feeling so tired and sluggish last October when I decided to try gain back my water intake, I was filling up with coffee until noon, having cola with lunch and dinner and in between, I’d been forgetting to drink any water! I drank the 8 glasses of water that I was supposed to and after just two days I felt so much better, I started tracking it via my bullet journal then by FitBit app but when I didn’t reach my goal a few times I just stopped tracking. Inevitably, the habit dropped off too. So now my goal is to simply drink water, it’s back in my Bullet Journal combined into my monthly layout.
  4. My Well Being. Me Time. Including Fitness. Being a mum of a toddler that isn’t currently sleeping through and working a forty hour week (plus over time and commute) I hardly ever take time out for me, including doing any exercise apart from walking the dog. I used to do guided meditation nightly, before and throughout pregnancy, but since my son was born there hasn’t been enough time in the day! Luckily my partners work schedule recently changed from a monthly shift pattern including weekends to a weekly Monday to Friday with occasional Saturdays, meaning I’ll be able to plan more me time into my weekend.

This blog will mainly cover Food + Drink as I love cooking and sharing, Health + Wellness as I work in Health & Safety and sit on the well being committee at my workplace, and Parenting. But will probably also contain prompted and unprompted ramblings on pretty much anything.

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Prompt: Sunday Scribblings #1 – What would you attempt if you knew you would not fail?